Evelyn Ryan, Yourlifelifter
No one has the right to prevent us from becoming our authentic selves including manipulating our power from us to redirect it to serve themselves. In fact, this is just plain dangerous. No one was born with that right or is entitled to that right just as our founding fathers agreed to in our Bill of Rights and the Constitution and its amendments. Our “power” is limited to solely, if we choose, inform others we don’t agree and why or this is what we believe and why. That is about it! You can’t debate the “correctness” of beliefs or conclude that mine are wrong and yours are right. What we believe is what we believe even if we think those of others are skewed and way off base. We cannot turn personal beliefs into laws and expect them to hold steadfast and true. Self-righteousness is not righteous.
We have laws founded in morality and righteousness that mandate the boundaries of our actions to ensure a peaceful society and support the principle that we are all different and have a common right to free will and to choose our paths in life. These laws have evolved and proved their effectiveness over time. However, laws cannot tell us how to think or what to pursue or what not to pursue. That we must figure out on our own. When the laws become self-righteous or exploitive and prevent folks from acting on their free will (assuming people are capable of making decisions that do not do them harm), people start making their own rules and rebelling. Why? Because directing, manipulating, or restricting that what innately makes us human and what we as humans are uniquely designed for and what drives our passions and our unalienable rights to pursue happiness and use our own free will to pursue it, in short, create chaos. They go against the laws of nature, conflict with our life’s purpose, and prevent us from being who we were put on this earth to be and to live harmoniously with others.
How does free will relate to our personal rights and relating to one another? As discussed, we are are born with the inalienable rights to pursue life, liberty and happiness. We are also innately born lovable. However, other personal “rights” such as the rights to be believed or to be trusted are earned and learned. We work for these rights by gaining the skills, knowledge, and abilities and more so and demonstrate our worthiness through our actions and words that stem from beliefs we validate through our life experiences and our personal interactions. This is how our characters develop and become chiseled permanently into our being. Read more here.
Let’s look at my business and Facebook ownership, for example. This ownership gives me no special entitlement. Being an abuse survivor or having the ability to manage a Facebook page and business provide me no special rights or divine authority to be believed. It simply doesn’t work that way. And to think otherwise is irrational and ludicrous.
So no one has the right to dictate how others behave or how or what they choose because, simply, they have not earned that right and it is not their “divine’ purpose to do so. Those who do, are the ones who have maladapted and instead of becoming self-reliant and self-sustaining people, learned to parasitically source their emotional nourishment from someone or something else. They have become dangerous to society. They are the ones who as described in the Bible, turn darkness into light and light into darkness.
In reality, if we want to change the behaviors of others, we can only change through sharing truth and with our learned ability to influence change and proving our credibility to others. Bringing value to others is the only power we have over others. That is about it. The rest is left to others to decide. Accepting this and others without judgement is the key to tolerance and compassion that are what drive mankind’s survivability and sustainability and our own ability to adapt to that we know we have no power to change and using our free will to change that which we do.
And when we find others who reflect our truth back to us?
Well, that is when the magic starts and that is what life is all about.