Life, Health, Career Coaching

Healing Lessons Inspired by My Neighbor’s “Knock on My Door”

Evelyn Ryan, Yourlifelifter

One of my neighbors (I will call him Joe) knocked on my door yesterday. I had not seen Joe or his wife for a few months. I was very happy to see him although he caught me in my pajamas. However, I soon found out that it was not a cordial visit.

Joe came to see me because he was suffering. He had been responding to and trying to help and comfort people he cared about who like him, were sad, fearful for themselves and their families, and who felt, during the U.S. Presidential campaign and after the U.S. Presidential election, their livelihood, safety, security, and freedoms were being threatened. Driven by his own compassion and generous heart, he had triggered his own repressed pains and fears from an abusive childhood and now he was feeling powerlessness and defenseless and sad. He was suffering and in emotional pain and was ashamed of his feelings. He did not want to burden his wife or children with his pain. He came to me for solace, help, and advice.

Now, mind you, he is a very powerful and proud over 6 foot tall more than 220 pound man who put his pride aside to reach out for assistance. I am humbled that he trusted me to feel free and comfortable to do that and I expressed this and acknowledged his courage for doing so. And so I listened and he listened to me as we shared our truths and our stories of our pasts, our pains, our children, marriages, our fears, our joys and our survival, successes and our love for our country and our families and our passion for truth.

And this is what I discovered. That our truths aligned. That even though we were of different races, sexes, ages, marital status, educational levels, and raised in opposite sides of the country and different neighborhoods and socioeconomic backgrounds and careers, that are beliefs and characters were more similar than they were different and this is how:

However, sadly, I also discovered that we are at different levels of emotional healing. Joe had not accessed, addressed, and healed his repressed childhood pain that was now rearing its ugly head to come back and haunt him. And so I reminded him to take his power back and shared these healing truths, that I detail in my book, Take Your Power Back with him that he confirmed applied to his situation and committed to work on.

And in validating and sharing these truths and our life lessons, we validated our compassion for others and our passion to help others come into their own truth. And we were reminded that in spite of the hate and bigotry incited and fears triggered by recent political events, that when we unite with others whose truth founded in righteousness, compassion, and a moral compass aligns with ours, that is when the magic, love, respect and healing start. And Joe and I both parted company smiling and grateful for knowing each other and being neighbors.