Originally posted on Yourlifelifter :
I’d like to clarify what I think is a huge misperception on codependency, healing, victimhood, and sources of emotional pain. Abusers find us. We do not find them and we do not deserve disrespectful, abusive, damaging treatment. There is not something wrong with us that makes us deserving of abuse or pain. Abusers abuse…
Originally posted on Yourlifelifter :
Originally posted on Yourlifelifter :
Evelyn Ryan, Yourlifelifter “Self-Love Deficit Disorder” (SLDD) has been officially trademarked by Ross Rosenberg! Hallelujah! We can all stop being labelled “codependents.” The last thing abuse survivors need is to be labelled. Becoming dependent on others to define our self-worth and soothe our repressed pain is a consequence of abuse not a…
Evelyn Ryan, Yourlifelifter “Self-Love Deficit Disorder” (SLDD) has been officially trademarked by Ross Rosenberg! Hallelujah! We can all stop being labelled “codependents.” The last thing abuse survivors need is to be labelled. Becoming dependent on others to define our self-worth and soothe our repressed pain is a consequence of abuse not a cause of it. This … Continue reading Say Good-Bye to Codependency
I’d like to clarify what I think is a huge misperception on codependency, healing, victimhood, and sources of emotional pain. Abusers find us. We do not find them and we do not deserve disrespectful, abusive, damaging treatment. There is not something wrong with us that makes us deserving of abuse or pain. Abusers abuse us because we think … Continue reading Codependency Does Not Cause Abuse
Evelyn Ryan, Yourlifelifter No doubt that narcissism is a hot topic with we all being such a self-centered lot on top of the pandemic of pathological narcissists wreaking havoc in government and even those posing as healers on social media to support their parasitic need for adulation even from the victims they victimized. So we … Continue reading Am I a Narcissist? – Being Narcissistic Versus Being a Narcissist
Evelyn Ryan, Yourlifelifter“Criminals, parasites, incompetents, and predators running for public office cannot announce to their targeted hosts and prey their true intent can they? What do they like all predatory and parasitic animals do? They use camouflage to mask their true intent. The truly evil members of the human race know what makes people of … Continue reading Why are So Many Politicians Pathological Narcissists and What Can We Do About it?
Evelyn Ryan, Yourlifelifter I am an empath, always was and will be. I have learned through my hard work and over 20 years of study (thanks to the profound work of Dr. Judith Orloff) and from feedback from so many in the Yourlifelifter community that being one comes with many benefits and challenges as well. … Continue reading The Unique Challenges of Healing and Loss for Empaths
Evelyn Ryan, Yourlifelifter Pathological narcissism is now a worldwide pandemic. Why? Because narcissists’ food supply of emotionally unhealthy people who are vulnerable to their manipulation tactics is abundant. And the population of predators always thrives when the food supply is good. Case in point. Now the FBI is warning people who are exposing crime in … Continue reading Corrupt Politics? Dysfunctional Family? No Difference. This is Why.
We all have basic needs for survival regardless of our level of privilege, status, and title. These include, food, love, shelter, safety, self-actualization (achieving your potential, happiness). To meet these needs, sometimes we give and sometimes we take because our living conditions change. Bad things happen to good people, right? Nothing is ever static. So … Continue reading Tips to Know When You’re Being Used and How to Protect Yourself (Especially for Empaths)
Evelyn Ryan, Yourlifelifter “We are a world in crisis because we have not improved our wounded faulty thinking. Because we as a collective have not healed and have not effectively battled the ‘evil’ component of humanity and society who we continue to birth, promote, be exploited by, vote for in key decision-making positions, and allow … Continue reading Terrorism, Politics, and the Pandemic of World-Wide Narcissism
Evelyn Ryan, Yourlifelifter “Living alone kicks us into self-benefiting actions that build the personal stamina and skills, knowledge, and abilities that allow us to become resilient, self-sufficient and self-assured, self-reliant on ourselves to bring us joy, optimal health, and the relationships that nurture our soul. Living alone allows us to have ‘skin in the game’ of our lives and … Continue reading How Living Alone and Being Single Build Emotional Health
Evelyn Ryan, Yourlifelifter Narcissists do not limit their targets to just nice people or empaths. In fact, they target anyone who is willing to provide them narcissistic supply regardless of the source. Remember that narcissism is on a continuum so the levels of severity in their depravity vary. Nevertheless, regardless of who is the worst or better narcissist or more … Continue reading Do Narcissists Target Other Narcissists?
Evelyn Ryan, author of Take Your Power Back: Healing Lessons, Tips, and Tools for Abuse Survivors, stars in the documentary film, NARCISSIST. This is a riveting film about the role narcissism plays in society and relationships. The movie was co-produced by Frank MacKay and Lee DioGuardi Buono. This film includes interviews with Evelyn Ryan, her daughter, … Continue reading Yourlifelifter Announces Release of the Documentary Film “Narcissist”
Evelyn Ryan, Yourlifelifter “We all have inalienable rights to pursue life, liberty and happiness. Absolutely we do. However, if we are prevented from pursuing them because we have damaged the only vessel that we have to travel in that journey, we are sabotaging not only our own health and happiness but also our children’s by teaching them … Continue reading How Abusive Childhoods Cause Us to Sabotage Our Health and Happiness
Evelyn Ryan, Yourlifelifter Our sustained happiness is a sign of emotional fitness just like our blood panel, cholesterol, and blood pressure are signs of our physical fitness. When we are happy, our emotional needs are met and motivate us to set and achieve goals. So our feelings are indicators of our emotional well being and what we need to … Continue reading How Emotionally Fit Are You?
Evelyn Ryan, Yourlifelifter Here is a message to empaths referring to their abilities as a curse: “Tsk tsk tsk!” Your abilities truly are gifts but can falsely appear as burdens if you were taught to look at them as oddities, vulnerabilities, weaknesses or reasons to let others use them for their benefit. Cognitive dissonance causes people to believe and … Continue reading Empathy: Is It a Gift or a Curse?
Evelyn Ryan, Yourlifelifter I write frequently about the differences between aggression and power. I’d like to expand on this topic as it relates to harm, fear and danger a bit more because understanding this is critical to your healing We Believe Falsely that We are Defenseless After we are repeatedly harmed, our fear and other pain-based responses … Continue reading Why Understanding the Differences Between Harm, Fear, and Real Danger is Fundamental to Your Healing and Well-Being
Evelyn Ryan, Yourlifelifter Are you compassionate? Empathetic? Well, if you are, you are one of 40% of the population who are a prime target for scapegoaters, bullies, narcissists, con-artists, and sociopaths who comprise a subset of the remaining 60% of the population. So being a “nice” person is your double-edged sword and most likely why … Continue reading Understanding Why Narcissists Targeted You is Fundamental to Healing
07/05/15 Hello, Evelyn. I would like to pass on my greatest gratitude for your healing posts. Coming through 2 narcissistic relationships, I have finally started looking after myself and this has taken a long time. I have and am restarting therapy again, but I can genuinely say the posts that you take the time to … Continue reading