Can Malignant Narcissism Be Cured?

Evelyn Ryan, Yourlifelifter Here’s the simple answer: No! Can narcissists have redeeming character traits? Intelligence? Of course they can. But they permanently lack the qualities we as humans need to build and sustain integrity of character and meaningful healthy relationships. Therapy can help narcissists put on the brakes if they go to therapy and the therapists are skilled in their … Continue reading Can Malignant Narcissism Be Cured?

What You Don’t Know About Dysfunctional Families, Pain-Based Thinking, and Intergenerational Abuse

Evelyn Ryan, Yourlifelifter Bringing clarity to the root causes and sources of the family dysfunction will significantly help alleviate the self-blame and shame that abuse survivors experience and clear a path to healing and recovery. Dysfunctional abusive families are fueled by unhealed pain-based maladaptive thinking that has been passed on from generation to generation to generation. Most recently, epigenetic studies are exploring the factors that … Continue reading What You Don’t Know About Dysfunctional Families, Pain-Based Thinking, and Intergenerational Abuse

Control and Personal Power in Power Imbalanced Relationships

Evelyn Ryan, Yourlifelifter “If we live in fear of anything, we give it the power to overcome us.” ~ Michele O’Donnell, Healer, Minister, Author, and Counselor I have been researching personal power and how it relates to personal success and happiness for decades. Sadly, this is what I discovered. That we have been misinformed about the … Continue reading Control and Personal Power in Power Imbalanced Relationships

Power Imbalance in Abusive Relationships – Part 2

Evelyn Ryan, Yourlifelifter This is Part 2 in a two part series on power imbalance in abusive relationships. Part 1 discusses misperceptions on the relationship between abusers and their victims and describes the predatory aspects of abuse and the not so obvious causes of power imbalance in abusive relationships. Part 2 discusses further the differences between aggression, … Continue reading Power Imbalance in Abusive Relationships – Part 2

Power Imbalance in Abusive Relationships – Part 1

Evelyn Ryan, Yourlifelifter This is Part 1 in a two part series on power imbalance in abusive relationships, common misperceptions, causes and effects of power imbalance, and how to correct them. Part 2 discusses further the differences between aggression, power, and control in abusive relationships and how healing allows us to access and rely comfortably on our … Continue reading Power Imbalance in Abusive Relationships – Part 1

Three Ways to Maintain Your Self-Preservation When Dealing With a Narcissist

The damage from narcissistic abuse is insipid and insidious and the emotional harm from it can be traumatizing. However, do not think for one second that you are defenseless or powerless to narcissists. Narcissists are energy vampires. They cannot generate their own power or energy. In fact, they in themselves are powerless. We fear them … Continue reading Three Ways to Maintain Your Self-Preservation When Dealing With a Narcissist

Am I The Narcissist?

Evelyn Ryan, Yourlifelifter I hear frequently from readers who fear they are the narcissist and the one with the personality disorder. My answer? “Absolutely not!” This distorted thinking is a consequence of prolonged abuse that started in childhood and its traumatic impacts on your beliefs, self-worth, self-assurance, gauges of reasoning, and your abilities to trust … Continue reading Am I The Narcissist?

Why are Narcissists Self-Righteous and Manipulative?

Evelyn Ryan, Yourlifelifter Have you noticed that the most toxic people have the biggest and the most fragile egos? Ever wondered why? They are part of the facade, the illusion of smoke and mirrors masking a core of deep-seated shame and self-loathing and powerlessness. They are crude covertly aggressive parasitic attempts at taking others’ power for selfish self-serving purposes by those … Continue reading Why are Narcissists Self-Righteous and Manipulative?

What Causes Malignant Narcissism?

Well, the experts are not exactly sure and frequently argue the causes between nature and nurture. Some say genetic disposition. Some say abuse, specifically invalidation including neglect and coddling, the same things in actuality that damage children who go on to become abused adults and targets of narcissists. One thing for sure is that both the narcissists and their targets … Continue reading What Causes Malignant Narcissism?

8/1/15 Hello,  Evelyn. I just wanted to take the time and let you know that your advice on dealing with the narcs in our life is greatly appreciated…I read your posts daily and it has been a great help!!! I’m finally healing…and my children are slowly healing along with me. Thank you!! Once again. H. S.