You will learn:
- The real origins of your chronic emotional pain and feelings of powerlessness
- The biggest obstacles that keep you in abusive relationships
- How to stop thinking like a victim
- What pain triggers are and how to identify them
- The difference between love and trauma addiction
- Exercises to strengthen your self-esteem, self-compassion and self-reliance
- How to not only heal but to thrive after recovery
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Read this glowing review from Dr. Patrick Gannon, PhD, Co-Founder of the ASCA (Adult Survivors of Childhood Abuse) Self-Help Recovery Program:
Take Your Power Back: Healing Lessons, Tips and Tools for Abuse Survivors is a practical and inspirational guide that focuses on key issues faced by adult survivors. Evelyn Ryan’s words of support and encouragement will be a source of emotional nourishment for adult survivors as they go through recovery. The book gets inside the emotional consequences of abuse. In particular, it shows how abuse impacts self-esteem and how survivors are inclined to unconsciously seek power-imbalanced relationships with narcissistic partners. The 7 Healing Lessons are cogently described dynamics tied to one’s past and the corrective thinking that is necessary for recovery. The focus on the ASCA Self-Help Program (Adult Survivors of Child Abuse) in the chapter on the Healing and Recovery Journey dovetails perfectly with the central message of this inspirational book: you can recover your authentic self by committing to make specific changes that are essential to life success but it will take hard work, persistence and most importantly, a COMMITMENT TO YOURSELF. I can see that survivors will want to read and re-read sections of this book for on-going support and inspiration – THE WORDS ARE THAT POWERFUL! Full of helpful lists, psychological insights and practical suggestions on how to take charge of one’s inner life to facilitate recovery, this book is an undiscovered gem!
Patrick Gannon, PhD
ASCA Self-Help Recovery Program
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THE ONLY PERSON YOU ARE HERE TO SERVE IS YOUR AUTHENTIC SELF.
The only person you are here to serve is your authentic self because when you do, your decisions and actions serve your legitimate emotional needs that you know you can rely on for your safety. All of life’s pieces then fall into place since the core of your being is truth based, authentically you.
Your self-compassion, self-esteem, self-worth, self-love, and self-respect will soar. You learn to sustain your emotional health with the emotionally nourishing rather than emotionally toxic beliefs. This is not selfish, as many of us, including me, were raised to believe. Rather, to the contrary, they are what the psychological community calls adaptive, emotionally healthy.
In healing, we learn to become our authentic selves not ones seeking approval of our worth from others. Healing is a learning process. Through asking the right questions and seeking and finding the truthful answers in a safe and trusting environment, we learn to turn our compassion and courage inward to support shifts in our thinking that support long-term emotional health and happiness.
We learn to befriend ourselves (who we long ago abandoned) by first accepting our powerlessness, committing to our healing, challenging our thoughts, releasing our fears and shame, and then incrementally taking our power back as we uplift our thinking and discover and honor our real selves and our personal divinity.
In the healing process, we regain our self-trust, self-power, self-respect and self-esteem.
We learn, then, what our true value is to our selves. We learn to rely on and trust our internal emotional cues that have been recalibrated with our newly found personal truth, our core beliefs that serve US!!!
Oh, of course, we must get cues from our environment and from others who have our best interests at heart. We also become better able to discern those who do not. But we now can readily use those cues to gauge where we are and to recalibrate our internal truth-seeking filters based on our choices and their outcomes.
We learn, in healing:
- To accept ourselves warts and all as enough, perfect in our being without self-criticism and fault finding judgment,
- vitality, courage and self-respect,
- to think like winners, rather than settlers,
- to formulate opinions and values that are our own,
- to take informed risks and make decisions based on our own internal cues, emotions, and values that we trust and rely on to protect us,
- to take ourselves back, to re-own ourselves,
- to do what we want and need to do rather than what others expect of us,
- to care for ourselves and respect our and others’ personal rights and authorities,
- to use our compassion for our selves and others responsibly,
- to become resilient and bounce back quickly from setbacks and course correct when we need to.
So we learn who we really are and to love ourselves! We become fully integrated people of integrity whose thoughts, actions and beliefs, based in our self-defined truth, align.
Our healing allows us to be the best versions of ourselves we were intended to be. It is the best demonstration of self-love we could give ourselves.
And in that newfound truth, we thrive.